2 years ago, only days after her 5th birthday the most splendiferous soul lost her stunning and feisty little blonde darling. That’s not quite right, lost leaves a space open for something to be found again and as much as I wish it could happen reanimation isn’t a reality. She was robbed of a life full of happiness, frustration and all the laughter with her darling.
Today would have been her 7th birthday. If you are any sort of a human being I’m sure you’ll understand that today many many tears were and are being shed. I never met L but even I have spilt a few tears, mostly for my dear friend, for the fact that I can’t phone her and sing happy birthday to her, I can’t send her a gift, for the fact that she hates this time of year where it should be a happy one. She should be eating sushi with her little right now, playing with all the toys, trying to keep the Christmas gifts hidden. She should NOT be grieving the loss of her daughter.
The only tears that should have been spilt today are happy ones.
Originally we were going to do today all about snowflakes and how individual and different they are but all things considered I put forward the FF topic to her, and my beautiful grieving friend chose tears. And you know what? I think it’s actually a pretty cool topic, also, do you see why she’s my friend? She is the Colleen to my Tarryn. Although that might be a little inaccurate cause I think we’re both Tarryn in this friendship :P
(if you don’t get the reference you can’t sit with us)
While googling tears I found out that just like snowflakes, tears are actually rather unique and that the different types of tears look stunningly different under a microscope. Serendipitous me thinks.
- Babies learn to cry differently in different cultures
- There are three types of tears. Continuous (or basal) tears are produced for basic eye function, such as lubrication. Reflex (or irritant) tears occur when the eye is exposed to excessive light, cold, wind, a foreign body or irritating gas (as from cut onions). Psychogenic tears are shed for emotional reasons.
- All vertebrates (animals with backbones) that spend time on land have continuous tears and perhaps reflex tears. Humans are the only animals that seem to cry for emotional reasons, though there are reports of elephants shedding tears in grief.
- “Good” crying really can help you feel better. Crying can be a means to catharsis because it helps you release tensions and come to new peace or resolutions about the reason behind the cry. Good cries are often associated with another person soothing the crier. But on the flip side “Bad” crying can make you feel even worse. Crying can make people worse because of resulting headaches (from dehydration and tense muscles), dry eyes, and stuffy noses. These side effects outweigh cathartic benefits especially amongst chronically depressed criers who aren’t crying about one specific thing.
- Crocodile tears qualify as an unofficial 4th form of crying. These fake tears are specific to people with excellent acting skills, of course. The term comes from the ancient Greek anecdote about crocodiles who fake-cry in order to deceive their prospective prey. Crocodiles do appear to produce tears, but this may be due to their third eyelid, which requires a great deal of lubrication.