15 Sep dear two parent families
HOW DO YOU DO IT?
I am dead serious, how do you manage splitting yourself between your person and your kid? For me raising Fysh alone is the only thing I know, I have him with me 24/7 7 days a week unless he’s at school or sleeping at granny for a night. It’s him and me, we’ve never had custody sharing and I always laugh when I hear people who do custody share complain about how they have their kid for a whole week at a time during holidays (yes this was an actual conversation with a “single” parent) welcome to my life, only difference is I don’t get to ship him off to someone else and get a week break during holidays… he’s with me. all. the. time.
I’m used to it so don’t take this as me complaining. I like having him with me, he gives the best cuddles and is one of those kids that craves closeness and extra doses of love.
But The Person came into our lives a year and a half ago and I’m still not sure I’ve got this extra person thing 100% waxed. Maybe the fact that we only see each other on weekends is why we’ve lasted so long? I don’t know. When he’s visiting I like to spend time with him cause I don’t see him during the week but then I feel guilty cause I’m paying him more attention than Fysh but if I pay Fysh attention when he’s visiting then I feel guilty that he’s not getting enough while he’s visiting. You see what I’m struggling with here?
Two parent families seem to always pity single parents and yeah a little sympathy is nice but it’s not necessary. You obviously get those moms who bitch and complain about raising their kids alone and go around looking for the pity but I guess I’m just not that kind of parent. Of course financial help from the biodad would be appreciated but I wouldn’t know how to navigate custody or sharing my kid. He’s mine dammit. HAHA.
So yeah, if you’re a two parent household, how do you split yourself between the two? And for you families of more than one kid. Nee fok I can’t even wrap my head around it. Maybe I’m just wired wrong, love as such and emotions don’t all sit the way they should with me so maybe it’s actually a really easy thing that my lack of chemicals makes harder. Sometimes I think I’d manage fine if I lost everyone and that I’d cope and maybe I would but I’m a creature of habit and those I “love” are my favourite habits.