09 Jan backlash
My post on why I homeschool seems to have weeded a few people out of my timeline.
I’ve been called childish and selfish for choosing to homeschool, that I had clearly not done any research because I don’t argue well and that Fysh will end up hating me for ruining his life.
I was not homeschooled. I attended normal government schools and did a two year stint in a private all girls school. I was subject to all the standardised tests and bullied by teachers and peers alike for my awkwardness and individuality which resulted in my rebelling in ways that got me expelled from a school. Going to a “normal” school did not help me socialise, it alienated me even more from people. My homeschooled friends say that they might disagree with many choices their parents made but homeschooling was not one of them.
The reason I do not argue well is because I have bpd and if you’ve read up on it like I suggested before you’ll know I get overly emotional and my body has an actual physical reaction to confrontation. I cry and get sick when I’m angry. This does NOT mean that I didn’t do and still do not do research on subjects.
My belief is that everyone studies differently, just as people react to situations differently. My child does not study the way I do and I accept that and help him learn the way he absorbs knowledge best. Would a teacher in a class do that? Mine sure as fuck didn’t, I was chased out of class most of the time.
I have always parented with Fysh leading the way for most things. I chose to use cloth nappies and was ridiculed for it and yet my child was potty trained before he was 2. I taught Fysh child sign language and was told it’s detrimental, yes he only started talking after 2 but his grasp on words and conversation are beyond his age “average”.
And as my person pointed out; with their argument, following the same education system that the likes of Elon Musk applies to their children is selfish. Home schooling is the very opposite of selfish
Also, they didn’t get to know me personally, ask me any real pertinent questions as to my choices. They’ve never met my child, they haven’t seen us or interacted with us. I was just attacked with their prejudice.
Something I have decided is that unless you are willing to pay for my child’s education you really have no say. I do not judge people for sending their children to a mainstream school so I would be most appreciative if I’m not judged and told he’s going to hate me for how I educate him. And who knows, maybe at some point he decides he wants to go to a real school, if that time comes I’ll be supportive and find a way to make it happen.
There is no manual for parenting. Your main goal should be to not raise a dick that will hold their prejudices against anyone’s choices. Those prejudices play a big role in many lives lost. People who have actually met my kid say he’s awesome.
I am a good parent and I need to remember that.